HeidiHelps - Counselling Services, Marriage, Relationships, Divorce, Depression, Overgivers, Drugs and Gambling Dependency, Hamilton, Burlington, Oakville

When you have a broken arm, you go to the hospital. But when you have a broken heart, you tough it out. Why is that? Many people may feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit their relationships are in trouble.

Partners in a relationship can experience individual change that often impacts the relationship's quality and tone.

Counselling can teach you powerful skills to improve your relationships:

Effective communication
Problem solving
Goal setting

Communication in marriages

Do you try to confront an issue with your spouse but feel like you're not getting the appropriate response? Or any response at all?

Communication between spouses can breakdown for many reasons, including:

Some have never been taught to effectively communicate
Some are fearful of exposing what they feel or think. They do not want to run the risk of being rejected or hurt if you disagree.
Some feel that talking won't do any good
Some don't believe they have anything to offer

Counselling is not for cowards! Our counsellors pinpoint problem areas between partners. From there we help you focus on what needs to be changed.

Your new knowledge can pave the way for a happier, stronger, and more fulfilling partnership.

How do I get my partner to go to counselling?

It sometimes happens that one partner can see the quality of the relationship declining while the other doesn't find anything amiss. This is a symptom and can lead to other problems.

If you feel you need counselling,

Tell your partner they only need to come for one appointment. There is no obligation to continue if they find no value.
Explain that a professional can see both sides of the coin, equally and fairly. There is no judging - just understanding.
Reassure them that no one will be blamed. Relationships aren't immune to problems, but those problems can be fixed.

If your partner is still unwilling to enter therapy, begin counselling alone. Often your partner will join in later. But even if they do not, significant improvements can usually be made in your relationship when you attend counselling alone.

Heidi Helps you look at both your strengths, and that of your relationship. This provides each of you the opportunity to air your differences in a safe and caring environment.

Remember - counselling is not forever but what you learn can last a lifetime.